Heartbreak
One thing that broke my heart the other day is seeing one of my friends going through a similar thing I had been through. If you question what that is, it is a guy not knowing what he wants from you and the relationship. For her, it was that he was saying I love you one minute and I hate you the next. My heart absolutely broke for her as I saw and knew the pain she was going through and though I told her it would hurt I told her to cut him out of her life until she was strong enough to tell him to take his idiocy elsewhere, and if need to, depend heavily on her friends to get her out of this situation for as Random says:
You can’t chose your family, but you can chose your friends.
Other than that, I’m good. Getting on with life can be a pain sometimes. If you question what I mean by that, then the scary email that the head lecturer of my course sent is what is the pain. The reading list. I think I’ve done 2/3 chapters for the inorganic, reread the notes for the organic (yet to do the textbook reading) and 1/3 books of the inorganic. However, instead of doing that, I’ve been gaming. Spiderman 3 for the ps2. Retro I know, but it’s the one game I haven’t played and became addicted to (ie: happily sitting still for 3 hrs + playing).
Went into the town centre today to pick up stuff for my brother. He needed an arch lever file and dividers. Thank god I decided to go before school ended or the buses would have been a nightmare. Then again, it did take me 2 hrs to leave the house. For once I woke up before 12 though, I did go to bed around 3.3oam I think. Can’t really recall.
Can’t wait till Friday! Get to see Jess, Bucket and hopefully Becka if I can convince her to turn up. It should be interesting. Cheesecake icecream, chocolate ice cream and a whole load of chocolate. Could life get any better?
I don’t think if your friend decides to ‘cut him out of her life’ will improve her situation much. If she genuinely loves that guy, then obviously, it isn’t going to be easy. I am a guy, and i used to do the same thing to the girl i loved. Saying i love you one day, and fighting for some stupid reason the next day. It happened because i wanted her to behave as i expected her to. In short, i was trying to dominate her. I made her cry literally hundreds of times, and cried myself too. She wasn’t happy with me and i wasn’t happy with her, yet we both couldn’t live without each other. We loved each other madly. A few days ago, i decided to take help of my friend and narrated everything to him, and i sincerely followed his suggestions. Since then, everything is as perfect as it can get.
I think that guy is going through some sort of mental imbalance or he is confused as to what he wants from her. I was the same days ago. I don’t think it makes him a bad person. maybe you should ask your friend to talk to him about his problems, making sure it gets sorted out. Maybe it will solve her problem. Surely, leaving him isn’t an ideal solution.
To be honest, the only reason I said that was because it seemed like he was playing mind games on her. Tell “I love you” one second then “I hate you” the next second without her even doing anything. I only say this seeing it from her perspective as I don’t know the guy in question. I think she tried to talk to him but kept getting blocked, as in he got defensive about everything. Hence why I said, take a break from him, don’t talk at him and get yourself emotionally stable as there is no point arguing about the matter whilst emotional and saying things you will regret later or will make the situation worse. Taking a break lets you see the relationship from a new perspective and if you were meant to be, then yes, you will work it out. That’s my reasoning anyways. It’s up to her at the end of the day if she listens.
Yeah, you are absolutely right. Taking a break will let her get a clear perspective of things and will help in deciding what to do next.
Btw, extremely good blog. I unintentionally visited your blog and now i can’t get myself off it. Just going through all your previous posts. Keep it up!
Thank you very much! Knowing I have people who are reading it everyday really boosts my moral! You may need the password for 2 of them but let me know if you want to read them. I can’t promise to update every day though